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Like Fine Wine

So it’s that time again. That time for everyone to start making New Year’s Resolutions.

You know those promises that most of us make to ourselves only to be broken within the next couple of months (or weeks or even days). Too many times they are unrealistic expectations that we put on ourselves often driven by the belief that there is something wrong with us. Then we’re disappointed or even angry with ourselves when we don’t stick to our plans.

Many times we’re not motivated by a true desire to improve our lives; we’re driven by a fear that we’re not good enough, will never be good enough unless we make this or that change to ourselves.

Now, I’m in no way saying that we shouldn’t set goals. If you’ve been reading my blog for a while, you know that every year my friends and I get together to create our Vision Books (our version of Vision Boards). We create goals that we want to accomplish throughout the year, and the new year is just a great place for us to start. We check in with each other throughout the year to make sure we stay on track.

I’m not saying that I have perfected this process at all. What I have been learning through this process, however, is not to focus on what I think may be “wrong” with my life, but instead to focus on what I want in or desire for my life. I try to visualize the life that I want for myself and what ENHANCEMENTS I can make to my current one to get me to the one I’m visualizing. Instead of focusing on habits I need to stop, I focus on those I need to start. Instead of just focusing on what I need to get rid of, I focus on what I can add to my life.

I focus on how I can grow.

After all, I’m not some project where I am going to be taking and throwing away pieces that no longer “fit”, discarding them as if they are useless, replacing them with random, generic, “one size fits all” parts in order to be more pleasing or appealing to others.

Everything that I have gone through, and I do mean everything, have made me into the Michelle that I am today: my victories, my mistakes, my rights, and my wrongs. All of it is me.

I’m not something to be fixed. Jesus accepts and loves me as I am. He did not come into my life commanding that I forget who I am and expecting an immediate change. He does command that I grow in Him and become more like Him. But even then He extends grace and mercy because He knows that I am not perfect and that this is a process. I must trust the process and in that process I will grow into the woman that I was created to be.

So with that being said, be kind to yourself this New Year’s Eve as you’re counting down and the ball is about to drop. Don’t focus on what you perceive to be your flaws, what you need to do to fix you.

Focus on how you can continue to enhance the beautiful person that you already are. Have a change in mindset, in how you see yourself, what goals you would like to reach, and how you can realistically get there.

Give yourself grace and mercy through the process and know that whatever you can’t accomplish this year, you can try for again next year.

Give yourself time to grow and become more refined.


Be like that fine wine that just gets better over time.

How Creating a Vision Book Can Help You Set and Meet Your Goals

Most people are familiar with a vision board. Basically, you make goals for your life (usually for that upcoming year) and create a collage that represents those goals. It’s a way to bring to life your hopes and dreams and to have them somewhere you can see them every day, a visual reminder of all that you hope to manifest in your life.

I’ve done vision boards in the past, but last year I tried something different. I wanted something that I could carry around with me so that I could see it even when I wasn’t home. In order to do this, my friend, cousin, and I decided to create vision books. Okay, we didn’t really decide but rather stumbled upon the idea. We had no idea what we were doing; we were just playing it by ear. Since we¬† made them out of spiral-bound notebooks that we already had, clippings from old magazines, and old scrapbooking materials, this proved to be an affordable and convenient project.

Our vision books turned out to be much like vision boards. Obviously, they were inspired by the concept. However, the books gave us a lot more flexibility. I’m a visual person, but I am very much a writer (hence, the blog). I love being able to write down my ideas, work through plans on paper, and write reflections about what I’ve done or I’m currently doing, what I’ve learned, and what I still want to accomplish. Our vision books gave me the freedom to do all of this.

Here is my vision book from last year. Like I said, it’s a simple notebook that I already had in stock (taken from my boys’ school supply stash), but you can easily purchase one for about $1 from any store. We had NO idea what we were doing when we created these; we just knew that we were ready to take charge of our futures and knew that we needed to put in writing our goals and dreams in order for them to manifest. As you can see, I named this my Dream Book back then. The cover and first few pages were just ones that spoke to my overall vision for the year.

Inside, I created separate layouts for each one of my goals. Here are a couple of them. I liked that I could further explain and break down my goals on each page.

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