Tag: change

Ready for Change: Embracing the Unknown

Most people are terrified by or not ready for change when it comes. Many times change comes with no warning at all, or we may be in denial and ignore the signs of change coming, or we are aware that change is coming but have no idea what it’s going to look like.

But we all know that change is inevitable in every area of our lives. We can either shrink back in fear or we can embrace and learn from the change.

Sometimes we need to learn to initiate that change ourselves when we see the need. Even if it scares us. Even if we don’t know what lies ahead.

Changes are coming…

With this being said, I have some changes coming along for Words of a Butterfly. When I started this blog it was just to get my thoughts and feelings from being locked up inside of me and out there for others to read (read my first blog post here). As I began writing my posts, I soon realized that others could actually benefit from them.

The feedback I was getting was that other people could relate to what I was going through or had been through. Some people thanked me or told their own stories. Shockingly, I realized that what I had to say could hold value to other people. I mean I knew that I had something important to say, but realizing that others actually wanted to read it, is a completely different thing.

Slowly, it began to dawn on me that this little website could be so much more than an online diary for me. It could be a place for other people, especially women, to be inspired to live their best lives. I certainly know that my goal is to obtain all of the information that I can about living my best life, so why not share everything that I am learning with others?

However, as usual, this idea of not just pouring my heart out in posts and letting what will be, be but intentionally creating a place where  women can come to seek motivation and inspiration scared me. So I held unto the idea for quite some time. Tiptoed around it. Wrote it down in my notebook and looked at it every once in a while, but fear beat me up every time.

Who do you think you are? Why would someone come to you for advice? What do you really have to offer? Will people want to read what you have to say?

With these thoughts also came the realization that I would have to be consistent with my blog content, not just posting when I felt like it. Even bigger than that is the fact is that I want so much more than for Words of a Butterfly to be just a blog. When I say that I want to motivate and inspire other women, I have so many other ideas in my head that I want to accomplish as well (more to come about these ideas in the near future). But these dreams are bigger than I am. Bigger than anything that I can do on my own.

Moving Forward

I’ve been praying, y’all, for some time now. Praying about what direction I need to go, how to make it less about me and more about you: my readers. In the midst of my praying and seeking, I got some clear answers (not exactly on how this will look in the end), but on how I should proceed. And here’s where I feel like I may be able to help some of you who are thinking about making a change, stepping out and trying something new, doing the unknown because you feel it in your heart and your soul that that’s what you should be doing. Here’s what I’ve been able to gather  from my daily devotional/journal talks with God.

  1. If I ask for His wisdom, He will guide me. I don’t have to be afraid of change. If I feel Him leading me down a path, I should feel certain that it’s the right way to go. Does He promise me that it will be smooth sailing or free from pitfalls? Nope. I just have to trust Him. That’s all. Sometimes those hard paths lead to the best places. If you feel your heart tugging you in a certain direction, be confident that God will help you navigate the way.
  2.                                                                                                                              One thing that I have learned is that life is better when you’re surrounded by other like-minded people. While Words of a Butterfly is my baby, it does not mean that I can’t go to others for help. There are women that I follow because I admire what they’re doing with their businesses, so why shouldn’t I seek their advice on how to proceed? Believing that I can do this all on my own, relying on just my own knowledge and strength is crazy. The Bible talks so much about seeking wisdom from others. This doesn’t mean run and talk to everybody about your dreams, but truly seeking wise counsel from trusted individuals is a smart move to make.
  3.                                                                                                                               This verse hit me right over the head this week when I read it. Although I am not a real queen as Esther was, I felt this verse speaking to me. I had just asked God to show me whether or not the direction I was taking was the right one, again questioning if people would actually respond to what I had to say. Then to read a verse as if God were saying to me, “Why hold back when you may have been created for just a time as this? Who are you to say whether or not you’ve been made to do this? Most importantly, who will miss out because you were afraid to act?” I cannot let fear of rejection be enough to keep me from pursuing my dreams! And neither should you!

I’m so excited about the changes coming! I’m nervous, but optimistic. There’s no way that I can sit back and not do this! While, I’ll continue to blog about my 90-day health journey, I will also be blogging about the changes that are coming to the blog and even asking for input from you!  One of the first and biggest changes that I’ve made is that I am about to reveal my logo that I finally got made!!!! Yes, I have a professionally created logo to go along with my new vision! (Thank you to my friend Sharon!)

So let me adjust my crown as I get busy! I pray that all of you will be right here with me on this journey!

Peace and Love,





Breaking Free

Anyone who really knows me knows how much I LOVE butterflies. I fell in love with butterflies a few years ago when I had a major change in my life (a much needed change), and, as a result of that change, something within me begin to awaken. I begin to see myself in a new light. Day after day, week after week, month after month, I could feel myself growing, and I came to the happy realization that I would never be the same. It was then that the concept of my becoming a butterfly begin to take shape as well. You see, for the longest I had played it safe, first just going through the motions of life never taking any real risks, never getting out of my comfort zone, and then, once I found the safety of it, staying inside of my cocoon even as the outside world and all of its opportunities constantly beckoned to me. All around me, friends were setting out and doing great things with their lives as I stood on the sidelines watching, applauding, even encouraging them to fulfill their dreams. I knew I wanted more for myself, that my purpose here on earth was so much more than what I was doing, but that stupid thing, that silly, dirty four-letter word, held me back: FEAR.

“For God has not given us the spirit of fear…”

In the back of my mind, this verse, it has always been there, but I always pushed it back, convincing myself that my fear was bigger than me or any help I could get, that my fear would always win, and I would fail. And a failure is something that I was terrified of being. Eventually, I decided that I didn’t want to live like that any more. Did it happen overnight? No, of course not. But slowly I begin to emerge from my cocoon, changing the way I thought, the way I spoke, even changing up my style, and people started to notice and comment on the changes. They liked this new me, and, as I’m sure you have guessed, so did I. I really, really liked her. Little by little, year after year, I emerged from my cocoon transforming into the woman that I am today. Am I where I want to be? Not even close. But I am so proud of the woman that I am now: a wife, mother, daughter, sister, friend, photographer, teacher, consultant, entrepreneur, writer, and now blogger. And this is just the beginning! Now that I have my wings, I am going to use them to soar to new heights, to go above and beyond anything that I ever imagined for myself.

“Now unto him that is able to do exceeding abundantly above all that we ask or think…”

I used to limit myself to what I could imagine for my life or thought I was even capable of doing, but once I realized what God could do and would do for me, things changed. I burst free from my cocoon, renewed in strength and confidence, no longer a slave to fear. Why play it safe when life has so much more to offer? Why fear the unknown when I could miss out on so many beautiful things? I can and will achieve even more; of this, I am certain.  Do I still get fearful at times? Of course, but I know that it’s all a trick of the mind, that there’s nothing to fear. This thought has me giddy with excitement about what the future will bring! That’s why I choose to surround myself with positive, motivating people and read encouraging, thought-provoking books (more about these people and books in future blogs) that challenge me to be my best self, to grow, to try new things, to believe in myself.  Thank you, God, for allowing me to break free. I know the best is yet to come!