Boss Lady Move – making a major change in your life in order to pursue your dreams, your passions, your goals and become your own boss
Moving is never fun nor easy. Moving away from family and friends and the life you know is even harder. Asking your children to trust you as you make such a big change to their lives can be the hardest.
However not pursuing your dreams, living a life of missed opportunities, wondering what your life could have been like if you had just made the move, tried something new, stepped out on faith, has to be even worse.
This is what motivated Constance “Connie” Ivana to make a major move this past year, this and the fact that she wanted to be an example to her two beautiful daughters. Dreaming was no longer an option for her; she was ready to make a change. As women and mothers, we are often led to believe that it’s okay to put ourselves on the back burner for our children’s hopes and dreams, waiting until they get older before we pursue those things that are important to us. But I ask, what do we think is more motivating for our children: seeing a tired, worn out mother who doesn’t spend time on herself and only lives to serve her children, or a mother who not only encourages her children’s dreams but also shows them, through her own example, just how to go after those dreams, consistently, persistently, never giving up? (I’m pretty sure I know which one you chose.)
Since meeting Connie, I’ve grown to admire her more and more each day. She and I are both teachers at our school, we’re both new to the school, and, I believe, God placed us on the same team for a reason. Just like He inspired my move from my old school, He orchestrated this union to push me beyond my comfort zone and to show me what it really looks like to make Boss Lady Moves.
Seeing Connie in action is downright fascinating. Not only did she move from Virginia down to South Florida to pursue her dream of being an artist, by the time I met her she already had an office space downtown, a studio space in a new art district, and had made many connections in the art world. By day she is a teacher on our team, by night she is a force to be reckoned with: a passionate artist, entrepreneur, creative spirit working on new projects as they come to her and endlessly pursuing new endeavors including running painting parties and developing a new t-shirt line. (Check out her work here.) She also has a great nonprofit organization called Soulful Innovations which works with women and children who have dealt with domestic violence situations. Here’s the mission statement: We focus on providing group and individual artistic opportunities for women and children to start difficult conversations and begin the healing process. (Check out the Facebook page here.)
And she does all of this while making sure to help her daughters pursue their own interests and dreams whether it be joining the Girl Scouts, entering talent shows, competing in spelling bees, or participating in debate tournaments.
Pretty impressive, isn’t it?
So for this interview I wanted to find out more, wanted to understand even more, how she made this big change in her life. Here’s what what had to say.
Tell me your story. What inspired you to make your Big Boss Lady Move? The plan for the move from Virginia was not to teach anymore. I was leaving the classroom. Really, I just needed a change. I don’t know when the revelation started. Before, all I did was work, come home, sit on the couch. I was living more for my daughters than me, and I was so detached from everyone. It was just too much after all that I had been through for me to try to go out because I would need to get a babysitter, do my hair, get dressed. It was just too much. (more…)