(This post is from guest blogger, Ashley Nihart, a health and life coach. Check out her bio at the end of this post and then stop by her website www.happyhealthyandwell.com for more great tips on living your best life!)
It’s amazing how much fear can hold us back. Fear of the unknown. Fear of what others may think. Fear of failure. Fear of success even. No matter what type of fear is holding you back from achieving your goals, and living your best life, there is a way to move beyond it.
For so long I did what was safe. I went to school, graduated, and got a good job. The whole time I knew, I was not on the path I was meant to live. But fear got in the way. For me, fear was heavily associated with low self esteem and worrying about what others would think. Going out of my comfort zone meant behaving in ways I wasn’t known for. I was the nice, quiet girl. Never outspoken or daring. But going for my dreams meant I had to break this mold so many people knew of me. And it was scary.
What if people didn’t like me? What if I looked foolish? What if everyone would make fun of me? What if I tried and didn’t succeed?
For the longest time, I allowed these fears to hold me back. To keep me from living my best life. I followed the path everyone expected me to follow but never felt fulfilled. Deep down, I knew I was meant for more. I just wasn’t brave enough to go for it.
In an attempt to find meaning and purpose in my life, I read tons of self improvement books. Listened to dozens of podcasts about going for your dreams and loving your life. I found mentorship and guidance through the authors and speakers on these platforms. It was a slow process but eventually, I started to believe in myself. And with this belief I developed bravery. (more…)
Hitting a Wall
Have you ever hit a wall and thought there was no way to get around it? I know I have so many times. These walls can be in our relationships, on the job, in our own personal development, or as we work towards accomplishing different goals.
And I will admit that these walls can be downright frustrating! It’s like you’re driving (or sailing or walking) along and things are going well. You are happy, carefree, and optimistic about all that the future will bring. You can see your goal peeking just over the horizon. You’re so close. Suddenly, BAM! There’s a wall directly in front of you blocking what was supposed to be smooth sailing. As far as you look to the right and to the left and up and down all you see is a wall with no end.
So what are you going to do? Retreat? Scream for help? Cry your eyes out? The answer to this is never simple.
My Wall: My Story
What I hate most about these walls is that most of the time, at least for me, they cause fear and doubt to creep in. I begin to rationalize that the goal wasn’t that important in the first place. Or that I was crazy for even thinking that I could do it. Or that it wasn’t really worth my time.
All of this fear and doubt get in the way of my being able to see that sign that says “Heavy Door. Push Here. Keep Pushing Until It Opens.” I’m so engulfed in my own sorrow and self-defeat that I fail to see that there is a way through this obstacle. I just have to be willing to look for it, to work for it, and to never give up on it.
I’m gonna be transparent here about this. Will you allow be to be open and honest? I’ve started and stopped many things because they’ve gotten too hard or too inconvenient. I’ve allowed the wall to tell me to turn around, to give up, that I’m being unrealistic, that this dream isn’t for me. I’ve allowed others to talk me out of a vision that I’ve had for myself. (more…)